“Why do you love me?” This is a question that frequently follows when one of us says I love you to the other (Lisa asks “why” the most). It is quickly asked but with real meaning each time, why? Sometimes the answer is the same, sometimes it is different, but it is important because we always ask. I know I have been talking about why so much lately but it is one of the most important things in our relationship today and each new day. This is a very different why, however, to what I have been talking about. This is not the “Why are we who we are as a couple?, or “Why have we done the things we do?” This is truly a simple “Why do we love each other?” As long as we can answer this “why”, we know we are happy at that very moment. Even if it is a day spent working together, a day spent driving each other crazy, a day spent cuddled by a fire, a day spent without sleep taking care of a sick baby, a day spent traveling, or a day spent apart, if we can answer this “why” it means we are doing what we want to in life. Together.
Why do we work seven days a week? Why did we quit our jobs 4 years ago? Why are we crazy enough to work from home with a 16 month old running under our feet? Why do we travel with a toddler? Why do these amazing people believe so much in our work? Why do you love me?
What if I told you that no answer can define or secure your relationship together? It is in fact about the journey together that defines your relationship and your why. Each couple’s answer to why they love each other is different. Questioning the “why” will make sure we think about what we are doing, but it is our actions that define our relationship. It is when we have what could be described as a terrible experience together, and decide to whisper into the love of our life’s ear and let her know that even that little bit of crazy can not stop us. You tell her we have each other and that is all that matters. It is listening to your partner when all you want to do is escape your reality too. So many people describe love and happiness through sacrifice, but I define my “why” as a desire for constant together. It means I want to be with you even when I can not be. Even when I am happy and alone, I want you by my side.
Dave and Lindsay seeing your passion towards each other was exhilarating in Point Reyes. I still chuckle about being almost blown over multiple times on the beach, but you did not let that stop you being happy. You would both quietly hold each other tightly,and then pull apart just enough to stare longingly into the other’s eyes and show not just each other, but Lisa and I as well, how much you love each other. There was this passion in how you held each other that filled our hearts as the burning sun set on North Beach there at Point Reyes National Sea Shore. We both knew you two loved each by the way you laughed and giggled when we first met you both at our house, but wow you blew us away at your engagement session. I am not going to lie that I laugh and smile each time I go through these photos and see you both playing with the little flower that you picked as you cuddled in the grass. Plus how could we forget hanging out with all the free ranging cows so close to the ocean. Your playful banter, and passionate demeanor is what makes you the couple that you are. Thank you so much for sharing your love for each other with us. Without you, the relationship Lisa and I have would not be as strong as it is today. Each new couple shows us something different about this thing we call love, and you allowed our hearts to be filled that windy day at Point Reyes, and still today.
Thank you! Thank you so much for exploring the shores of Point Reyes with us for your engagement session!
If you know me, you know that one of the most important things I love about what we do is understanding the why. Why do these two people love each other the way they do? why How do they make each other smile,? Why are certain things important in their relationship? These and so many other “why” questions (and their answers) are the fuel that drives us when creating intimate photos with a couple. When we first met Sara and Daniel, we talked about going to the place that he proposed to her for their engagement session. It was this nice vineyard outside of Sonoma. The funny thing is that the day he took Sara there he originally told her they were going to go to Point Reyes to go on a hike and enjoy some time by the ocean with a friend that was visiting California. Instead Dan had Sara’s family fly in from all over the US, and surprised her with an adorable proposal at the winery. So we decided to enjoy that time at the ocean in Point Reyes that Daniel had promised to take her to that same day he proposed.
One thing is extremely clear with with Daniel and Sara which is that they are fun, quirky and LOVE making each other laugh. Their goofy sense of being is incredibly infectious. I can only imagine each one of their friends are constantly laughing, and almost in tears over how fun these two are to hangout with. It is just as amazing when you see their sweet and gentle side come out. I understand why Sara was willing to move from Denver to marry Daniel. Who wouldn’t want to laugh, smile, and cry the way these two do together. When faced with a choice of something to do, or somewhere to go they always choose the sunny path. It is amazing to see how Sara leans on Daniel, and how Daniel leans on Sara for support. It is funny how so many relationships have this defining moment of, “We are going to do this together forever.” That decision for Sara was when she decided she was going to leave Denver and move to California with Daniel.
So many of us have these moments that define who we are as a couple, and these “why’s” make up our true character. For me it was Lisa breaking up with me to drive me to a big change in my life. I knew she was the girl I wanted to marry but there were a lot of changes that needed to occur for that to happen. In one day I drove from San Francisco to June Lake, visited my sister, then drove back to Tahoe the next day, quit my job in marketing, packed up whatever could fit in my truck and moved back to Elk Grove, got my job back at Apple, and did whatever it took to change myself. I had to put every ounce of my spirit into the decision to change my life. It was one of the hardest, craziest things I had ever done. I can not tell you how thankful I am that even when every person I knew told me to get over it, I pursued what made me happy. This beautiful girl I call my wife, who is the mother of my amazing son.
It doesn’t matter how big or small each leap of faith is that we make. What is more important is that we were willing to take the leap. Sara, I am so happy you chose to move to California. You and Daniel exude happiness. I can not wait to see how that rubs off on all your family and friends!